A New Year, A New You?

As I contemplate what to write about, I think about what we all hear pretty often around this time of year. Through social media, commercials, ads, etc, we’re told either directly or indirectly that we must be better. The new year represents a time to start over. But does it also mean to reflect? I know with Rosh Hashana, the Jewish New Year, it is mostly about reflecting on the past year and how to be a better human being for the next. We eat apples and honey to represent a sweet new year. Yet, when I think about the New Years that mostly everyone celebrates in the world, I feel this slight pressure to make resolutions to be a better person and focus on the things I haven’t been doing for myself. Instead, I would prefer to reflect on the past year, see how each year I do get closer and closer to who I want to be and feel more comfortable and happy, and then focus on ways to improve myself but in a more spiritual and healing way rather than on my physicality and figure.

However, I have noticed that people are focusing more and more on themselves in an overall healthy way and are more progressive in our thinking than we used to be. (Of course, I am generalizing here and can’t speak for everyone) but in my own life and in my work, I want to focus on self-care and loving myself as fully as I can.

The more we love ourselves, the more love we have available for others and the more content we will be.

But what does self-care really mean and how do we do it? Well, it looks differently for everyone but for me, I want to write it in a list to always come back to and see what sounds delicious and delightful for my entire being. Feel free to steal any of my ideas or create your own completely! The beauty of self-care, is there is no right way to do it. It is whatever you want it to be.

Self-care could mean you go on a walk by yourself every evening. Or it could mean you read a book, do some yoga, dance in your room naked, eat something delicious, spend time with your lover, friends, or family. Spend time in nature. Create something. Play a game. Watch a movie. Sleep. Love yourself!

My New Years Resolutions (which are focused on self-care) include these but aren’t limited to…

  1. Meditate and spend time with my Magic at least once a week (or everyday)

  2. Take a bath more often

  3. Spend time in nature (outside in the back yard, a walk around the neighborhood, or drive to the beach or hike somewhere)

  4. Eat vegetables and fruits at least once a day

  5. Dance every day!

  6. Write every day!

  7. Nourish my five senses

  8. Finish one book at a time

  9. Do art or knit more often

  10. Go on a date with Jess once a month!

Whatever it is that feeds your soul and you are doing just for you. This is what I want to do more of this upcoming year. The more I do it for myself, the more fuller my glass will be so I can take better care of my partner, my family, my friends, my kids, (from work) and the clients I work with. The most important thing though, is to not be hard on yourself for not taking care of yourself or for feeling like you are being selfish in doing so. NO. You need it and the people in your life need it. Obviously, do it in moderation and with awareness of others as well. But, it is okay and important to spend a little time each day for yourself.

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”
Audre Lorde

Thank you for reading and for reflecting on the New Year with me. I invite you to join me in a self-care challenge that could become habitual and part of your everyday. It is a 10-Day challenge that you get to take photos or document with words and then share it on social media. Use the hashtag #selfcarechallenge2018 Then refer someone else to join us!

Happy and Healthy New Year! Hope this year you can fully love and accept yourself always, take care of you, take care of those that are important to you, and do what you love! Let’s do our best once again and remember, that we are the ones in control of ourselves, our lives, and our reality. We can’t blame anyone else but ourselves. Let’s take the year on the best way we can!

Goodbye 2017, Hello 2018!

Thank you for another year on this beautiful planet and thank you to all the amazing people in my life, including my cat Yoda and Bonita and Puff!

Love and light,

Rachael Anne Singer